Coaching sessions with Nawal are really pleasant. Most of the time we are on closed mind. The session started like the others: she summed up her story, I told her what were the mains points according to me and I asked her a range of questions to lead her reflection. What I prefer when she tells me her story is she usually adds details consciously or unconsciously. Ton of her voice gives me clue on her feelings about the situation. It’s another way to listen to people.
Nawal had found a way to experiment the two models: the 4 players of Kantor* and the advocacy/inquiry model. She had shown a strong emotional intelligence* (EI) to face the last part of her group meeting. In a sense, the goal of using EI is similar when using advocacy/inquiry model.
We also talk about which kind of leader she could be. I understood she had a lack of spontaneity in expressing her idea. She really needs to feel save, to feel her ideas are good one and she is not going to lost the face. The extreme safety is one reason why she loves the role of by-stander.
After the main part of the session, we exchanged stories, opinion about followers we’ve already met. We were both not sure on the usefulness of being a follower. The end of the conversation looked like more a discussion between friends than an analyze between coach and coachee. It maybe a way to get to know her more and be able to lead her reflection better.
*Four Players Model from David Kantor, 1995
*Emotional Intelligence made popular by David Coleman
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