Without any judgment

With Astrid, we have agreed on one statement:Wherever you come from your actions and your understandings are guided by what built you. Belief, value, assumptions, perceptions, fears are basis of the person you really are. But those bases are different from one culture to another one. Definition of good and bad, moral and amoral, socially accepted and none socially accepted can be totally opposite. When you communicate, you see one’s word through your judgment. What’s happen if your judgment is built from different bases than the person you’re talking with? You simply don’t understand each other. So what to do then? 

The solution is simply: Suspend your judgment.  

After talking about this topic, Astrid and I realized it was not that easy. to suspend your judgment.  Your judgment is a kind of protection. During an unexpected & rude communication, the survival instinct reaction is self-protection. If you success to go over your survival instinct you become aware of great key which lead to victory. Because you listen for the first real time, without judgment, you understand one’s argument. If you are in a situation of competitiveness, it’s an advantage. For instance in chess “Think like your enemy” to predict his next step and win. 

We also raised another point: Using “suspension of judgment” when you don’t want to judge a person on his action. It seems to be a good idea. But where should be the limit to what we accept? What moment should you think the person crossed boarder? When our judgment should be back? 

It leads us to one key question: Is it always good to suspend our judgment?

To be honest, except the reflection which led to the questions above, i don't think I’ve learned at lot from this assignment. I use to apply suspending judgment. At least, i do it when my friends confess personal stories. To help them the best way, i try to analyze only fact, and make them see the situation under another angle. Maybe I would have more to learn in applying this method in harder situation, where I have more difficulties to control myself.